Don't worry it is not you! You have to accept that this is a speculative market and that you will loose substantially like Warren Buffet!
Whipsaws- are assured. You if you hang around long enough you will know that it is part of the game. The key is to know the direction for the immediate future and stick to it and change when it changes too.
They always want your money- as Terri Belkas once said you can only 'secure your stop loss' profit is a bonus.